What is a Size Kink and How Can I Explore Mine?
Does size matter when it comes to sex? Nope. But if size in any way, large or small, gets your heart racing, then learning how to explore a size kink solo or with a partner will lead to great sex.
People with a size kink will find certain sizes of body parts, overall physique, or proportions to be arousing or stimulating.
Size kinks are not about body shaming or suggesting that one size fits all. What is a size kink? A celebration of all body types and the people who adore them.
This guide answers the most frequently asked questions about size kinks, size queens, how to safely enjoy size play, and talk about your size kink fantasy with your partner. Let’s dive in.
Your Size Kink Questions, Answered
What is a size kink?
The term size kink refers to a sexual preference or fetish where an individual is sexually drawn to a particular size or proportion of someone’s entire body or specific body part. A person’s size kink can focus on anything from height to hands to type of genitalia.
Size kinks are surprisingly popular in fantasy and fanfiction forums, where many people share and explore sexual fantasies about oversized or miniature beings, like encounters with magical giantesses.
Size kinks, often incorporate physical and psychological power play. Size difference kink encounters frequently involve a submissive person who enjoys how the physical power of their partner makes them feel, and vice versa.
What are the most common types of size kinks?
Height
Having a kink for height is a form of size kink experienced by many folk. This size kink refers to a preference for particularly tall or short individuals.
What is a size kink for height based on? Usually, a person with a height size kink is aroused by someone with an opposing physical form to them, making this a size difference kink.
This kind of size kink goes beyond finding tall women or short men hot. It’s usually related to how that person’s height makes you feel, in a powerfully primal way.
If you have a kink for short men, you may get a sexual rush from feeling tall, with the ability to physically overpower someone else.
Weight
Like with a height kink, a weight size kink is also often about the feelings of power created by differences in physical size.
A heavier partner may make you feel overwhelmed in their arms or underneath them in a sexy way. You may enjoy the sensation of being physically larger than a lover with a smaller frame.
Penis
As size queens everywhere know, a common size kink focuses on the penis, where individuals will have a preference for smaller or larger genitalia.
Penis size kinks might focus on length, girth, or the intensity a large penis can bring to the bedroom.
Muscles
Some people find muscular bodies, such as those with larger biceps, thighs, or a muscular frame, sexually attractive.
Muscle size kinks are similar to kinks for specific heights and weights. We tend to associate muscles with strength and power.
Do you fantasize about being lifted and pinned against a wall by an action man lover? Go for it.
Size kinks apply to other body parts, too, like hands, feet, backside, and breasts. People like different things. And as long as no one feels judged or shamed, it’s fine!
It goes without saying, but size kinks can be explored in same-sex relationships as in heterosexual ones.
Why do people enjoy a size difference kink?
And what’s so sexy about it? Size difference kinks often go hand in hand with BDSM in all its glorious manifestations.
If you’re someone who finds the dominant/submissive dynamics of BDSM hot, the natural power roles that emerge when one person is significantly larger than the other might make you melt, inciting thrilling feelings of fear or helplessness.
Feeling small can be exciting, even dangerous. Alternatively, smallness might make you feel safe and protected in a lover’s arms.
Size play lends itself to body worship, which many people find sexy, as vast size can make someone feel godlike.
Feeling big (nay, huge), like a giant with a body that looms over all else, feels powerful. You can possess things and people (in consensual roleplay) and incite fear and awe.
For others, the fantasy and roleplay side of size play makes it a liberating escape from the world.
Have you ever craved the adventure of shrinking down and exploring the world in a new way? Or becoming the sexy, tiny plaything of a gorgeous giant?
People with body part size kinks may have an intense sexual adoration for the look, shape, and feel of body parts when they’re a specific size. Kinks are as unique as the people who have them.
Does having a size kink mean I’m only attracted to a specific size or body type?
Not necessarily. While having a size kink means you have a strong preference for certain sizes, it doesn’t mean you can’t find other body types attractive.
It’s just one part of your sexual preferences, which will coexist with other attractions and change over time and with different lovers.
What is a size queen?
The term size queen is everywhere nowadays, for better and for worse.
A size queen or king is someone who prefers to have sex with partners with larger-than-average penises. It’s sometimes used to empower their personal preference, sometimes used in a derogatory way to shame people for it.
Whether good or bad, the label is common to online dating and kink communities, where people want to find the specific sexual partner they’re after.
Are there any dangers in size play? What about body shaming?
Size kinks aren’t inherently about body shaming. Of course, fetishizing body parts or types has the danger of reducing that person to their body or shaming those who have different bodies.
It’s important to be aware of the potential for unrealistic body expectations and harmful stereotypes and ensure that size kink communities and conversations are inclusive to all body shapes and sizes.
However, it’s normal to have preferences and be drawn to some things more than others. Kinks are a natural and common part of human sexuality, and the key to navigating any kink is communication and respect for each other’s boundaries.
As long as size play has the enthusiastic consent of everyone involved and is about celebrating bodies for what they are without creating negativity around differently sized bodies, it can be about joy, not shame.
Where and how can I explore my size kink?
If you’re ready to dive into fantasy, there are tons of easily accessible movies, books, and short stories involving romantic or sexual relationships between differently sized characters.
If your partner is down to explore your kink with you, you can have fun combining size play with other kinds of play, tools, toys, or scenarios that have power dynamics built in, like bondage, erotic humiliation, worship, tickling, spanking, comparing hand sizes, or being carried from one place to another.
What is a size kink really about? Creativity.
Do you like the sensation of having your mouth *ahem* full? Go for it. Do you want to try role play where your tall girlfriend wears heels and makes you kneel before her? Or a muscly lover to act like your bodyguard for the day?
Sometimes, having sex against a wall will do the trick. Or, if you share a size kink with your tall partner, you can wear their oversized, baggy clothes to emphasize the difference.
You can always introduce larger-than-average dildos to solo or partnered play if large genitalia is your thing.
How can I talk to my partner about my size kink?
Expressing your desires in a non-demanding, non-judgmental way, and creating an environment of trust and respect can help facilitate a healthy conversation about kink.
Don’t pressure or rush someone. Try to be honest about something that excites you, share examples, and explain what parts of it turn you on. Your partner will appreciate honesty and learn something new about you even if they’re not into the same things as you.
This is a chance to share and to get to know your partner a little better, too.
Is there a part of size kink that turns you both on? Don’t feel limited by the standard kinds of play you hear about or watch in porn.
Sharing your size kink with your partner can be reading them a passage from an erotic story you like, or giving them pleasure on your knees.
If, when they understand your size kink and all the ways it can be explored, they’re just not into it, don’t force it. Move onto the next kink you both share.
What is a size kink all about? Stepping into the thrilling world of size play isn’t about limits.
Learning about your size kink gives you a new and powerful kind of knowledge that can be a gateway to trying new kinds of touch, toys, psychological excitement and closeness with your partner.
Does size matter? No. But size play does!
