65 Dangerously Sexy Questions to Ask Your Lover

What have you always wanted to ask your crush? There’s no better (or funner) way to get to know your lover than with sexy questions that range from mildly flirty to total filth.

We’re all about sexual communication. Asking your lover the sexiest questions ever can lead to conversations about desires, fantasies, past experiences, secrets, and what you’re both desperate to do to each other.

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Unsurprisingly, these dirty questions to ask your crush enhance fun as well as emotional intimacy, tension, excitement, and honesty. They’re a form of verbal foreplay and dirty talk that ignites your mind as well as your body.

Your new lover is a sensual riddle waiting to be solved. These questions can be dropped into a first date or introduced into conversation with your long-term partner. Or you can ask yourself these questions and be pleasantly surprised by the results!

65 Dirty Questions to Ask Your Crush (Or Long-term Love)

Sexy Questions to Get Started

  • "What do you think about when you masturbate?”
  • “What song always gets you in the mood?”
  • “What’s something you’ve always wanted to try?”
  • “Do you find any clothing items or styles erotic?”
  • "Where do you most like to be kissed?"
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  • "Can we shop for sex toys together?"
  • "What’s your favorite part of my body?"
  • “How often do you touch yourself?”
  • “Where’s the strangest place you’ve ever had sex?”
  • “What turns you on almost instantly?”
  • “If you could only have sex in one position for the rest of your life, what would it be?”
  • “Do you own any sex toys?”
  • “What makes you orgasm the fastest?”
  • “What’s your favorite time of day to have sex?”
  • “What’s your favorite thing to do after sex?”
  • “What does it feel like when you orgasm?”
  • “What makes someone a really good kisser?”
  • “What is your favorite kind of foreplay?”
  • “What makes a perfect blowjob?”
  • “What celebrity do you fantasize about?”
  • “What’s your favorite part of sex?”
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Dirty Questions to Up the Heat

  • “What’s your most-watched porn category?”
  • "Have I ever turned you on while we were in public?”
  • "What color underwear would you like to see me in later?"
  • “What would you do if we were alone together?”
  • "What’s the most unusual place you'd like to have sex with me?"
  • "What's your favorite time of day to have sex?"
  • "What would you like to watch me do to myself?"
  • "How does it feel when I touch you here?"
  • “What are you best at in bed?” 
  • “What’s your favorite thing to do to me?”
  • “How does it feel when I go down on you?”
  • “How can I drive you crazy with my body?”
  • “What do my lips taste like?”
  • “If we were in a sex shop right now, what three things would you buy for me?”
  • “Can you guess my favorite part of your body?”
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  • “Will you text me the next time you masturbate?”
  • “What would take our sex life to the next level?”
  • “If we had to watch porn together, what kind of video would you choose for us to watch?”
  • “What do I smell like?”
  • “What’s the hottest thing I could do when you’re having an orgasm?”

The Sexiest Questions for Feeling Filthy

  • “What role-play scenarios do you fantasize about?”
  • “What’s your dirty talk like?”
  • “What’s your favorite kinky emoji?”
  • “Do you have any kinks or fetishes?”
  • "Which would you like more—to be in control, or to be dominated?"
  • "What’s the dirtiest thing you’d like to hear me say during sex?"
  • “Can you recall how I sound when I moan in bed with you?”
  • “What names do you like being called in bed?”
  • “Do you like being watched having sex?”
  • “How do you think we would look in a sex tape?”
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  • “If I tied you up, what would you like me to do first?”
  • “Is there anything really taboo that turns you on?”
  • “Do you like the idea of anal play?”
  • “Do you want people to hear us having sex?”
  • “If I allowed you to do anything to me, what would you do?”
  • “Have you ever been so horny you couldn’t control yourself?”
  • “What can I do to make you have a mind-blowing orgasm?”
  • “What’s the most taboo thing you’ve ever done?”
  • “Would you like watching me have sex with someone else?”
  • “Do you enjoy having marks on your body after rough sex?”
  • “Have you ever been tied up in the bedroom?”
  • “Do you want to play a dirty sex game with me?”
  • “Do you enjoy me asking you sexy questions?”

How many of these sexy questions got you excited for the nighttime? These dirty questions to ask your crush are only suggestions. Feel free to get creative and personalize your sexy questions to suit your partner’s and your own interests.