How to Squirt: The Complete Beginner’s Guide
We’ve all heard the stories. Or seen videos of liquid shooting across a bed in a way that seems a little… unrealistic. These kinds of portrayals lead many of us to wonder how to squirt. Is it even real? And where does all that liquid come from?
We’ve gathered all your questions from what is squirting, to how to make a girl squirt? Here are answers to everything you’ve ever wondered about this sexy phenomenon. Because it’s real. And anyone with a vulva can do it!
Firstly,
Is it real?
Yes, squirting is real! Granted, the kind of squirting that pops up in porn is exaggerated and doesn’t occur as easily or frequently as it appears. Squirting in real life can take some work, but it is 100% real.
What is squirting?
Squirting is when liquid involuntarily “squirts” out of the vulva, in a way similar to the way ejaculate “shoots” out of a penis, as a result of sexual stimulation.
Specifically, it comes out of the urethra - the tunnel that usually carries urine out of your body. It’s released by the Skene’s gland and the bladder, which are triggered into action by G-spot stimulation.
It often happens at the same time as orgasm, but can also happen before or after. Like an orgasm, squirting is a pleasurable release that follows a build-up of tension.
Is squirt just... pee?
What is squirting? If it comes out of the urethra, doesn’t that make it urine?
Studies that have been done so far show that while squirt comes out of the urethra, it’s not pee. It’s actually made from a combination of urea, uric acid, and creatinine. Basically, it shares some of the same ingredients as urine, but contains other things too, including ejaculate.
Another reason we know it’s not pee? Because squirting isn’t caused by a need to go to the toilet. It’s caused by sexual stimulation! Plus, it’s clear and doesn’t smell of anything.
What is squirting and how is it different from ejaculation? Although squirting is sometimes confused with ejaculation, they are also two different things, because squirting comes from the urethra, not the vagina, and they are made of different substances.
How does it happen?
How to squirt? The simple answer: G-spot stimulation! But there’s more to it than that. G-spot stimulation causes swelling and a build-up of fluids in the Skene’s glands, which sit near the end of the urethra. Specifically, in the erectile tissue of the urethral sponge.
Pressure and fluids continue to build with stimulation until they hit their peak and are released out of the body via the urethra. It often happens during orgasm, but it can also happen with no orgasm at all.
What does it feel like?
As with most sexual experiences, it feels slightly different for everyone. However, people who’ve experienced squirting describe it as feeling like an orgasm in terms of release, but with one major difference: the “I need to pee” feeling.
Because squirting follows a build-up of pressure on the urethra, it will feel like you need to pee right before you squirt. The trick is to keep going!
Many vulva-owners who squirt describe it as more intense than an orgasm alone. Why? Because the urethra has lots of nerve endings, so the sensation of liquid traveling through it during orgasm is an intensely pleasurable one.
Can anyone do it?
Yes, anyone with a vulva can squirt! However, as with most things, some people can do it every time they try, while others may only do it once or twice in their life.
How to squirt?
When it comes to how to squirt and how to make a girl squirt (or anyone with a vulva) there are a few top tips and things to remember.
- There is no full-proof method. It will take experimentation and figuring out what works for your body.
- You have to be mentally relaxed and in the moment. If not, you’re likely to tense up at the feeling of needing to pee, and not throw yourself into the physical letting go.
- You’re far more likely to squirt from stimulation with fingers or a g-spot toy. Squirting during penis in vagina sex or with most dildos is less likely, though not unheard of.
- Go to the toilet before trying to squirt! This makes it easier to relax and overcome that “needing to pee” feeling.
How to squirt during masturbation?
Start by preparing your surroundings and getting in the mood. This means having an empty house, plenty of time, putting on an erotic video or reading erotic fiction, and laying a towel on the bed… squirting can produce a lot of liquid!
Take your time getting yourself in the mood to masturbate. Caress your erogenous zones and start with the things you know feel good to you.
When you’re hot and bothered, head to the G-spot with your fingers or a toy that’s designed for G-spot stimulation. It’s located about a third of the way inside the vagina and on the front wall (belly button side). You can reach it by entering and doing a “come hither” or hooked motion. It feels more sponge-like than the rest of the vagina canal.
Once you’ve found the G-spot, start applying repeated pressure to the area. For best results, stimulate the clitoris at the same time. Remember that your G-spot gets bigger the more aroused you are, so don’t rush!
After some time you’ll feel the pleasurable pressure build, and something similar to needing to pee. At this point you need to relax and sort of… push out and go with the release. Don’t tense your pelvic floor muscles (which you would normally do when holding in a pee).
If you manage to squirt at the end of this, great. If you don’t, don’t worry at all. It’s not an exact science, and you can just try again.
How to make my partner squirt?
If you’re wondering how to make a girl squirt, you’re not alone. Firstly, anyone with a vulva can squirt, not just women. Secondly, the same advice applies when making a partner squirt as when doing it to yourself.
Squirting won’t come from a quick session, so spend time on foreplay and building arousal. Then, using your fingers with the “come hither” motion, or with a toy, stimulate their G-spot at the same as, or after, paying their clitoris the attention it deserves.
An extra tip for how to make a girl squirt? Sometimes, applying slight pressure to their lower belly with one hand during penetration can encourage squirting.
It’s important not to pressure them. They won’t be able to relax if they feel like you’ll be disappointed if they don’t squirt.
How to squirt during sex?
Put simply, you’re less likely to squirt from penetration with a penis or strap-on/dildo that hasn’t been designed to reach the G-spot. But that doesn’t mean it’s not possible!
Squirting is most likely to happen in positions that encourage G-spot stimulation. These include doggy style, spooning, and the flat iron (you lay flat on your front while your partner enters you from behind.)
How to squirt during sex? Spend time warming up and getting aroused. Focus on the G-spot but definitely don’t ignore the clit. Relax your mind and pelvic muscles - even if you feel like you might wet the bed!
Even if you don’t manage to squirt or your partner doesn’t get there are you’re still wondering how to make a girl squirt, don’t worry. Your hard work hasn’t gone to waste!
Spending time getting to know the G-spot will improve your sex life, and trying something new is a great way to get to your know body and connect with your partner.
