How to have phone sex: 7 tips for fooling around long-distance.

Being far away from your night-time lover can be tough. Phone sex might have crossed your mind, but you’re wondering how to have phone sex. What is phone sex? What do I even say? And is it just 2 people masturbating at the same time? (sidenote: no. Good phone sex is an art form.)

What is phone sex?

Yes, phone sex can involve masturbation and end in orgasm. But it also involves people sexually stimulating and getting off on one another over a phone call. And sure, phone sex is often a whole lot of dirty talk - but if this worries you, relax! Once you get into the swing of phone sex, excitement naturally overshadows any awkwardness.

Guaranteed you’ll be better than you think.

To make you feel as prepared as possible (especially for beginners out there), we have 7 tips, tricks, and toys that will make your next long-distance sex session one your partner will never forget.

How to have phone sex like a pro.

“Kiss me thru the phone…”  is, like, a real thing.

1. Find the right time.

Do not disturb sign

It’s essential to plan a phone sex session when you know you won’t be worried about anyone listening on the other side of your wall or knocking on your door. Live alone? Great. With roommates? Lock your door. With your family? Lock the door twice.

2. Get yourselves in the mood. 

Feeling relaxed and in the moment is a big part of how to have phone sex. Make sure you’re both turned on before you both put your hands down your pants. Try sexting, describing what gorgeous underwear you’re wearing, reliving a favorite sexy time you shared, or even read a short erotic story to your partner, or watch an erotic video at the same time.

Man sitting phone celebrating

3. Practice your dirty talk.

What is phone sex? A lot of dirty talk. This is the part many people feel nervous about. But it’s also one of the hottest parts of phone sex! If you don’t know what to say, describe how much you enjoyed something they did to you in the past, what you want to do to them, or what you’re currently doing to yourself (while thinking of them).

When you’re really in the moment, simply moaning their name or breathing heavily will do the trick.

Here are some examples:

  • “I’m sliding my hands into your pants and kissing your neck”
  • “Thinking about you makes me so wet”
  • “I want to pull your nipple into my mouth and suck it… slowly.”

Introduce toys!

Using your go-to vibe (and describing how insanely good it feels) is a great way to up the steam during phone sex. But there’s more to sex toys than vibrators! (Who knew?) If your partner has a penis, investing in a male masturbator toy like a fleshlight will earn you a lot of brownie points.

Take it one step further by getting a long-distance sex toy (otherwise known as a “teledildonic”) which lets your partner control its vibrations (and your orgasm) from across the world. This can be a very satisfying (and frustrating) sex game for phones.

Man hands handcuffed

5. Use your fetish for sex games for phone sessions.

What is phone sex? It’s sex - just in a different way! So naturally, it makes sense for phone sex to include some of the things your physical sex does. And that means kink. If you’re a natural dom or sub, integrate this into your phone sex sesh.

If you’re a sub, have your partner tell you exactly what to do (touch here, stroke there) and control when and if they can orgasm - all the while getting themselves off.

6. Explore sexy fantasies together.

Not being physically together means you can enjoy some extravagant sexual fantasies. What scenario has always turned you on a little? How to have phone sex involves thinking outside the box. Ask your partner what they would do if they found you tied up. Perhaps you can be a maid and your partner your strict boss? Maybe you have a threesome... Maybe your partner is a pizza delivery guy knocking at your door… We’ll let you do the rest.

Man smelling pizza satisfied

7. Take it up a notch with skype sex.

Feel like you’re ready for a close-up? If you’re comfortable with how to have phone sex, your next exploration can be how to have skype sex. Skype or video chat sex is the next natural step. Arrange a time and place with your partner and use your words as well as your body to satisfy each other, and enjoy putting on a show.

How to have phone sex? Grab a toy and start dialing.

Let our tips guide you through your first phone sex session and bring you satisfaction in many more. Long-distance sex rules!