The Ultimate A to Z List of Kinks and Fetishes


It’s time we returned to our favorite topic: Kink.

Even though underwear will always be our number 1, there are loads of other fetishes that slip under mainstream society’s radar. This ultimate list of kinks is going to give them the recognition they deserve. Finally.

If you’re a practiced kinkster, you’ve probably gotten over the whole idea of fetishes being “taboo” or “bad.” If you’re new to the topic, let us be the first to tell you that sexual kinks are neither of those things!

Not only are they a natural form of sexual self-expression, but more people have one than don’t have one.

Set of erotic BDSM toys

To show you just how extensive the world of naughty sex is, this is an A-Z list of kinks and fetishes that ranges from the vanilla (Role-playing? Been there, done that) to the extreme.

What’s the difference between a kink and a fetish?

What’s the difference between a kink and a fetish? A kink is anything sexual (an act, desire, fantasy…) that is different from traditional ideas of "normal" sex. This definition sounds vague - and it is!

These two are often thrown together because a fetish is a kind of kink, only more specific and more extreme. If someone has a fetish, it means they have an intense, almost obsessive, sexual desire for a particular thing. You have a kink for something if it makes you pretty excited and it’s not “vanilla”.

The sexuality of a fetishist might be centered around this object/scenario. They will get exquisite pleasure from it, and might not be able to feel pleasure without it.

Common types of fetish

There are many different fetish categories, and there tends to be a crossover between them.

Object fetishes are about objects, like underwear or leather. Sometimes the focus is on the material, other times, the shape or form of the item. Body part fetishes are about - you guessed it - body parts.

As well as being about objects, people can have fetishes for situations, behaviors, or characteristics.

When you ask questions like “Why do people like this?”, you realize there are themes that come up time again. Many kinks involve power and control, pain, role-playing, the “taboo” (because it’s always hot to do something you know you shouldn’t), and our innate desire for attention.

Most kinks, fetishes, and unusual sexual practices are a combination of these elements.

Young woman erotically licking her lips

A-Z List of Kinks and Fetishes You Wish You Knew Sooner

A is for Ageplay

Ageplay is a kind of role-playing kink in which people pretend to be different ages. At the extreme end are adult babies. At the tame end? You calling your partner “Baby” or “Daddy” in the bedroom…


Some people are scared of heights. An acrophiliac, however, is sexually aroused by heights or being at high altitudes.


Axillism is armpit fetishism. In particular, it’s a fixation on the smell of armpits.


This is a sexual attraction to figurative, human-like objects, like mannequins, statues, dolls. Unsurprisingly, nude statues tend to get the most attention. It’s linked to the broader “object” fetish category.

Classical figurative statue

B is for BDSM

In this list of fetishes, BDSM is a big player.

As we know, BDSM covers any sexual practices that involve bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism. Within this category are common and more specific preferences, like spanking, bondage, and restraint. Role-playing and intense power dynamics are central to BDSM.


Did you know that briefly cutting oxygen from the brain can take you to a state of euphoria? Breathplay combines this practice with sex by introducing varying degrees of choking, from light to near-total asphyxiation, into sexual play.


Brassierolagnia is extreme sexual arousal from bras. These fetishists will often get more excited by the sight of bras than the sight of breasts.

C is for Cuckolding

This kink involves a partner being turned on by seeing their partner having sex with someone else. A “cuckold” used to mean a married man whose wife cheated on him, but today it means someone who is aware of and enjoys their partner having sex outside their relationship.

Woman in cosplay costume and wig


Cosplay is the activity of dressing up as a fictional character and role-playing. Someone who’s really into cosplay gets aroused by dressing up in these costumes and seeing others dressed up, and by the role-playing scenarios that follow.

CBT (Cock and Ball Torture)

This is a kink grounded in erotic humiliation and masochism that involves a penis-owner getting pleasure from having pain inflicted on their private parts. The “torture” can come in many forms - squeezing, spanking, tickle torture, piercing… One of the stranger ones on our list of kinks? Perhaps.

D is for Double Penetration

This is another fetish that is how it sounds: it’s a desire to be penetrated in 2 places at once. Generally, this means a vulva-owner being penetrated simultaneously in their vagina and butt by 2 different penises. And it’s a surprisingly common fantasy!


Dacryphilia is arousal from tears, in particular, seeing other people cry. It can be a dominant/BDSM-style kink. Alternatively, pleasure can come from seeing someone be emotionally vulnerable and expressive.

Woman comforting sad man


Doraphiliacs love animal fur, leather, or other kinds of animal skins. This kink centers around the smell and feel of these materials.

E is for Exhibitionism

This is one of those sexual kinks that’s up there with feet and BDSM when it comes to popularity, which means we couldn’t leave it out of our list of kinks. Exhibitionists enjoy - you guessed it - exhibiting themselves sexually. In other words, being watched while having sex.


Edging is a kind of orgasm control that kinksters can practice solo or with partners. Edging literally involves someone being brought to the brink of orgasm, then stopping and holding off climax as long as they can.

It gets a bit BDSM when partners practice it with each other as part of power-play or punishment. In these cases, edging goes a step further and becomes orgasm denial.


An electrophile gets pleasure from experiencing electric shocks on their body. These can be self-inflicted or delivered by a partner. Some enjoy a gentler sensation, but for others, the pain of a strong electric shock gets them going.

Female legs with bondage gear

F is for Femdom

Femdom is a fixation on being dominated by a woman or someone with femme characteristics. Men (typically, but not always, hetero men) who desire dominatrixes have this kink.

Foot Fetishism

This is another big player on this list of kinks. It’s one of the most common fetishes out there. This fixation can be about touching and looking at feet or even involving them in sexual play (sucking, stimulating, penetration..)

Financial Domination

Power and erotic humiliation are central to this kink. Cash slaves are people who get sexual pleasure from being dominated by someone financially. In other words, from having someone take their money.

G is for Gender Play

Gender play is common in the BDSM community and involves people taking on a different gender role. It’s sometimes part of a dominance/submissive dynamic, and sometimes an individual fantasy.

Friends dancing in the rain

Group Sex

Group sex is any sexual play involving more than 2 people. It could be a threesome or an entire soccer stadium. On this list of fetishes, this is another one that tops sexual fantasy charts time and again.

As well as stemming from a desire to experience and share more pleasure with more people, part of the thrill of group sex is the feeling of being desired by multiple people.

Giant Fetish

Alternatively called Macrophilia or “macro fetish,” this is an intense sexual fixation involving giants or people a lot bigger than you. It’s typically hetero men who have this fantasy - men who get pleasure from the idea of being sexually dominated by a larger woman.

Young couple having a fight

H is for Humiliation

Again associated with BDSM, erotic humiliation is getting sexual pleasure from humiliation. It can be received in varying ways, including name-calling and specific acts like cuckolding or handing all your money to a financial dominatrix.

Penis humiliation is a surprisingly common fetish that involves a dominant partner humiliating a submissive partner based on the size, shape, or other characteristics of their penis.


There’s debate over whether Hentai is a fetish. We’ll never be able to reach a conclusion. But if it’s not, it’s certainly a kink that a lot of people have!

Hentai basically means Anime or Manga porn - animated porn characterized by exaggerated characters (think tiny cartoon women with huge breasts) and explicit, kinky sex scenes.


Hybristophiliacs are sexually aroused by criminals. Knowing someone has committed a major infidelity makes them very attractive and sex with them very gratifying for these people. Ever wondered why serial killers have fans, some of whom they marry? This is why.

Hands behind bars

I is for Impact Play

This covers a lot of sexual kinks, including spanking, whipping, and face slapping. But impact play covers any kind of action involving impact on someone’s body done for sexual pleasure. And, of course, with enthusiastic consent.

Intelligence Fetish

You may have heard of sapiosexuality, which is a sexual orientation defined by attraction to someone’s intellect or mind before their appearance. An intelligence fetishist takes this orientation a step further.

They’ll find an intelligent person extremely arousing and get intense sexual pleasure from someone with a quick mind, because of their quick mind.


Idrophrodisia is a sexual passion for sweat - in particular, its smell. Like the used panty fetish, this one can be linked to our innate human sexual response to people’s pheromones, mainly released through sweat.

Man pouring water on himself

J is for Japanese bondage

Otherwise called Shibari. It’s another practice with links to BDSM. A Shibari practitioner will tie someone up in intricately designed patterns using rope. This is one of those sexual kinks that is also considered an art form.

JOE (Jerk Off Encouragement)

JOE’s are a form of video that’s taking over the internet. Jerk Off Encouragement videos contain people literally talking into the camera, encouraging, sometimes commanding, viewers to jerk off.

K is for Knismolagnia (tickling)

That’s right - some people just love being tickled. And get off on it too. Power play is central to this fixation because the person being tickled submits themselves totally to their tickler.

Knife Play

This fetish is, unsurprisingly, part of BDSM. People into this will use knives in their sexual play. Usually as a tool for exploring power play through sadomasochism, punishment, pain, and danger.

Woman touching her face in mirror


Katoptronophilia is a love for mirrors. People with this kink will fantasise about and enjoy having sex in front of mirrors, stripping in front of mirrors, masturbating in front of mirrors...

L is for Latex (and Leather)

These two deserve a shared spot in our list of kinks because they’re both material-specific sexual kinks. And they’re both common. These kinksters will wear these materials and want their partners to wear them too. There are whole marketplaces dedicated to latex and leather gear.

Another popular fetish material is fur.


Lactophilia is a fetish for breast milk. Drinking it, touching it, looking at it, involving it in sexual play… Considering it’s a substance that comes directly from breasts, this is another one that’s unsurprising when you really think about it.

Female chest in leather top

M is for Male Chastity

Again, this is a kinky sexual practice with its roots in BDSM - one partner “controls” the other. Some men find nothing sexier than being told they can’t have sex or reach orgasm.


Masochism is one of those broad, umbrella kinks that loads of other sexual kinks fall under. Including choking, needle play, and erotic humiliation. Masochists are people who get pleasure from pain. It falls into the wider BDSM category, and it’s opposite is sadism.


A sexual fixation on machines, including computers, cars, and washing machines. Mechanophiliacs want to do sexy stuff on/in/around these machines. This is closely linked to robot fetishism, attraction to robots, or technophilia, an erotic fixation with gadgets and technology.

N is for Nylons

This is otherwise called a stocking or pantyhose kink. These naughty folks will enjoy watching people in nylons, holding them, or wearing them themselves, and especially involving them in sexual play.

Woman pulling up black pantyhose

Needle Play

Also called play piercing and recreational acupuncture, needle play is the practice of piercing the skin with needles for the purpose of pleasure. Unsurprisingly, this fetish is part of BDSM.

Nose fetishism

Otherwise called nasophilia. This is another body part on our list of kinks. It’s an extreme sexual attraction to the nose: its shape, size, or a specific part.

Navel fetishism

Another body part kink. This is sexual attraction to this part of the body and is linked to a kink for belly buttons. Navel lovers often enjoy licking things off the navel (melted chocolate, whipped cream) or having their own navel stimulated.

It’s an erogenous zone, after all!

Man biting finger

O is for Odaxelagnia (Biting)

This is a fixation on biting or being bitten. These people will likely have a thing for giving or receiving pain (sadomasochism). Is it just us, or does this one go hand in hand with Vampirism?


This the erotic hobby of licking eyeballs for pleasure. Whether they’re licking their partner’s eyeballs or having their own seen to, these kinksters are having a good time. Oculolinctus is linked to Oculophilia, which is the fetish for eyes in general.

P is for Panties (of course!)

As everyone in the Pantydeal community knows, this is one of the most widespread fetishes on this list of kinks.

A passion for used panties is traditionally known as Burusera and has been around for a long, long time. Panty enthusiasts love the appearance of underwear as well as the smell, material, and intimate, sensual nature of the item.

Panties and female backside


A “plushie” is a soft, cuddly toy. Plushophiliacs experience sexual attraction to stuffed animal toys and sometimes humans in animal-inspired outfits. This is a form of animal role-playing.


Petplay is another form of animal role-playing. In these scenarios, one partner will take on the role of pet and the other, owner. Puppy, pony, and kitten play are popular forms of petplay.

Q is for Queening

Queening is face-sitting. More specifically, it’s when a vulva-owner straddles their partner, “sits” on their face, and receives oral pleasure. Many kinksters who go crazy for queening are into the dominant/submissive aspect of it, too.

Woman wearing a crown making shh gesture


Another body part kink! This time, it’s hands. These kinky folk might be attracted to specific shapes, sizes, or parts of hands. They might enjoy watching hands do certain things, like playing an instrument or opening a jar.

R is for Role-playing

This is an odd one out on this list of fetishes because sexy role-playing is a very broad kink. People might have a passion for role-playing, but the exact role-play they enjoy is what defines their specific fixation (Sex slave and master? Police officer and criminal?).

BDSM is a form of role-playing.


Rimming is a form of oral-anal sex. It’s when one partner kisses, licks, sucks, or otherwise stimulates their partner’s anus with their mouth. We already know the butt is full of pleasurable nerves, so it’s no shock that rimming is a common practice.


Extreme sexual arousal to footwear. This is linked to the foot fetish but is more specific to shoes as objects and the varying shapes and styles they can have.

Woman surrounded by shoes

S is for Sadism

Sadism, masochism’s kinky counterpart, is the practice of deriving pleasure from inflicting pain on others. Outside of a consensual, sexual context, this character trait is potentially dangerous.

But within this context, indulging in sadism allows partners to enjoy power play and extra psychological and sexual thrills.


People who enjoy sexual submission often like being spanked by a dom. A dom who’s into spanking will like giving their partner’s butt a good seeing too, and will probably have a sadist streak.

Sensory Deprivation

Another common BDSM practice. If you’ve ever been blindfolded in bed, you’ve tried sensory deprivation. This kink is about restricting your senses for enhanced arousal and pleasure.


Stigmatophilia is a fetish for body modifications - especially piercings and tattoos. And especially in the genital area.

T is for Trichophilia

Trichophiliacs are aroused by human hair. This can be on the head, armpits, genitals… anywhere. Again, this one isn’t as strange as it sounds. Historically, long hair on women has been considered erotic.

Woman touches hair of her girlfriend

Transformation Fetish

A kink for being or seeing others transformed into another person or a non-human being. This is popular in animated erotica like Hentai.


Attraction to monsters or people with a monstrous appearance. This can be animated characters or real people whose appearance could be seen as deformed in some way.

U is for Urolagnia

You might otherwise know this as Watersports. People with this kink get a kick out of anything pee-related. Whether that’s being peed on, watching someone pee, or just thinking about golden showers. It’s one of the more well-known sexual kinks because lots of people have it!

Uniform Fetishes

Seriously, who doesn’t like this? People with this fetish might have a thing for specific uniforms or styles. For others, their attraction to uniforms is about power in general.

Woman in red uniform

V is for Voyeurism

Another one that couldn’t be missed off our list of kinks. Voyeurism is exhibitionism’s partner in crime. Voyeurs aren’t so bothered about getting in on the action. They’re aroused by watching other people naked or engaging in sex - consensually, of course!


A fetish for vaccinations. One of the more bizarre ones on this list of fetishes? Medical play is a widespread kinky practice, so this one isn’t actually as strange as it sounds.

Vampirism Fetish

A sexual infatuation with all things vampire. Sexual vampire play can involve people dressing as vampires and integrating classic vampire tropes into sex - fake blood, canine teeth, neck biting...

W is for Wet and Messy Fetishism (WAM)

Isn’t sex already a bit wet and a bit messy? People who enjoy WAM are aroused by wet and messy substances being excessively applied to bodies or clothing. Picture a food fight or wild mud bath.

Couple with messy faces embrace in the kitchen

Wax Play

This is a form of temperature play and sensation play. It involves partner’s dripping hot wax, mostly using safe massage candles, across each other’s bodies. People who are into it enjoy the physical sensation and BDSM (pain) aspect.

Wet Clothes Fetish

Have you participated in a Wet T-shirt contest? Then you know about this fetish! For some people, wet clothes and the sensual delights they reveal are unbelievably arousing.

X is for Xenophilia

Xenophiliacs are extremely aroused by having sex with people from different countries. The actual definition is an attraction to “the unknown”, or “the strange”.


Xylophilia is an extreme sexual attraction to wood, trees, and forests. This kink puts “Got wood?” into a whole new light.

Tree hugger

Y is for Yaoi

Yaoi is a specific genre in fiction, especially Manga and Anime, that focusses on homoerotic relationships between men. It’s become surprisingly popular among a young female audience - to the extent that it’s considered a kink.


Sexual attraction to yogurt. Eating it with a spoon, eating it off your lover, rubbing it all over your body… What’s better than combining sexual kinks with satisfied taste buds?

Z is for Zoophilia

Zoophiliacs sexually fantasize about non-human animals. It’s different from bestiality because this fetish is kept in the realm of fantasy - as it should be!

Erotic couple in bed in underwear


Arousal and sexual pleasure from jealousy. Either your own feelings of jealousy towards a lover, or someone else’s jealousy over you. Cuckolding fantasies, which include an element of erotic humiliation, often involve this kink.

Did anything on this list of fetishes catch your eye?

Are you confused? Open-minded? Inspired?

If this list of kinks teaches you one thing, let it be this: There are thousands of fetishes out there! And as long as there's enthusiastic consent all round, there’s nothing wrong with letting loose your naughty inner freak.