Enhancing Intimacy: The Magic of BDSM Collars

Either way, BDSM collars are beloved by the BDSM community. They have become a symbol of a person’s submissive status and a way to signify stages and aspects of a dom/sub relationship, including ownership, protection, playtime, and more. What is a BDSM collar, how are they used, and what do you need to know before buying one? Let’s find out.

What is a BDSM collar?

A BDSM collar, also known as a bondage, sub, or sex collar, is an accessory worn around the neck of a submissive.

BDSM or sex collars are typically made of leather and fitted with a metal D-ring. However, styles vary depending on the purpose and what the dom and sub agree upon.

Collars can be hard or soft, made from fabric or metal and with designs ranging from simple and discrete to elaborate and ornate.

A BDSM collar shows ownership, devotion, and subservience, what kind of lifestyle you’re into, and what stage your relationship is in. For some, a BDSM or sex collar is worn by a sub to add tension to a one-off play scene. For others, collaring up is a sign of long-term commitment.

The use of a BDSM collar must be consensual. It symbolises trust and respect between partners, and its use should be negotiated and enthusiastically agreed upon by everyone involved.

Types of BDSM collars

If you’re interested in being collared or collaring your submissive, learning about the main types of BDSM collars and how they are used will help you get started and play safe.

Play collars

Play collars are worn by subs during BDSM play scenes. When the collar is on, it means the kinky fun is about to start.

Play collars are often more noticeable than other types because they are worn in privacy, not out in public.

Consideration collars

As the name suggests, a consideration collar is a type of BDSM collar worn to show that a person is under consideration to become a dom’s personal submissive.

If the relationship doesn't work, the collar can be removed. If it does, can be exchanged for a permanent, day, or other type of BDSM collar.

Some couples skip the consideration collar and go straight for a training collar or another type.

Training collars

A BDSM training collar is used when a dom is training a sub.

Once the sub is fully trained (by the dom’s chosen standards), they can move on to the next type of collar they desire.

Protection collars

Protection collars have important symbolism in the BDSM community.

Wearing a protection collar means a sub is owned by their dom and protected so that other doms know to stay away.

A protection collar shows that a dom is taking responsibility for their sub, which is a serious role to take on.

Day collars

Day collars differ from most other types of BDSM collars because they are designed to be discreet and worn during the day without inviting unwanted questions.

The purpose of a day collar is to allow the dom and sub to express their relationship publicly but in a private and subtle way.

Permanent collars

Permanent collars are the most serious type of BDSM collar. They represent the permanent status of a BDSM relationship.

Some permanent collars can be fitted with a locking mechanism with a key kept by the dom.

Permanent collars should be worn at all hours of the day (with allowances for comfort and cleaning).

Permanent collars don’t have to be heavy-duty. They can also be more discreet and easy to wear, like a piece of symbolic jewellry.

Safety and consent

While BDSM collars are worn by people to symbolise submission, they must only be worn with the enthusiastic consent of everyone involved. A sub can remove the collar any time they choose.

As with any kinky play, it's crucial to negotiate terms, limits, and comfort levels before any play begins or collars go on.

This can happen verbally or be part of a written BDSM contract.

Remember, a sex collar should never cause harm or discomfort. Always prioritize safety and mutual consent above all else.

Caring for your collar

The type of BDSM collar you choose depends on your personal needs, style, and comfort level.

What style makes you feel sexy and submissive? What type suits your D/s relationship or play needs?

Once you’ve chosen your collar, clean and care for it regularly to ensure longevity and keep it in good condition.

A good BDSM collar can last a lifetime.

So, what is a BDSM collar? While sex collars can be stylish as hell, they are also items that hold deep significance in the BDSM community.

They symbolise power dynamics, commitment, protection, and trust and should be worn with care and intention.

Whether you are new to the fetish community or an experienced practitioner, understanding the meaning of BDSM collars will make your collared experience one you won’t forget.