SSC, RACK, & CBT: BDSM Acronyms Every Kinkster Should Know

Are you lost in a world of SSC, NSA, CBT, and LDR? We’re here to help. In this article, we’ll discuss the meaning of common BDSM acronyms and why they’re essential to learn for anyone who’s curious about the kinky side of life.

BDSM acronyms and abbreviations aren’t only hard to navigate for beginners. If someone is ‘into BDSM,’ what does this really mean?

The worlds of sex, gender, and kink often generate a unique index of terms. Like any other community and space, BDSM has its own language, and its definitions often interrelate and overlap.

The acronym BDSM, for example, has three subcategories: B&D, D&S, and S&M, which mean Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism.

Acronyms for BDSM are especially crucial in this community for many reasons, including privacy, the popularity of online messaging, and the need to communicate complex things clearly, quickly, and efficiently.

Why is it important to learn BDSM acronyms?

BDSM acronyms are used everywhere, from dating profiles, online communities, and pornography to slang, sexting, and safety guides.

Why is learning the lingo especially crucial in the world of BDSM?

The practice of BDSM has the potential to push boundaries and cause physical and/or psychological harm. Learning the nonverbal signals and the language of BDSM is essential to understanding and articulating your desires and boundaries and having the capacity to give fully informed consent - which no kinky play should be without.

If you’ve already read Pantydeal’s kinky sex and BDSM dictionary, take your knowledge a step further by learning these commonly used BDSM acronyms.

Learning the lingo: Commonly Used BDSM Acronyms 

A

AB – Adult baby

ABDL – Adult baby/diaper lover

ANR – Adult Nursing Relationship

ATF - All time favorite 

ATM – Ass to Mouth

B

B&D – Bondage and discipline

BBW – Big Beautiful Woman

BDSM – Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism, and masochism

BYOT - Bring Your Own Toys

C

CBT – Cock and ball torture

CD – Crossdresser

CG/l – Caregiver/little

CNC – Consensual non consensual

D

D/s – Dominance and submission

DD – Daddy dom; domestic discipline

DD/lb – Daddy dom/little boy

DD/lg – Daddy dom/little girl

DL – Diaper lover

DM – Dungeon monitor

DT - Deep throat

DTTAH – Don’t Try This at Home

E

EMC – Erotic Mind Control

F

FEM – Abbreviation for female like FEM DOM

FFF, FMF, FMM, MMM, MMF – Refers to “threesomes”, F for female, M for male.

FWB – Friends with Benefits

G

GF – Gender Fluid

I

ISO - In search of

L

LB – Little boy

LD, LDR – Long Distance Relationship

LG – Little girl

M

M/s – Master/slave

MC – Mind Control

MD/lb – Mommy dom(me)/little boy

MD/lg – Mommy dom(me)/little girl

N

NSA – No Strings Attached

O

OL, O/L, OLR – On-line relationship

OTK – Over the knee

P

PE – Power Exchange

PRICK - Personal responsibility, informed, consensual kink

R

R&P – Restraint and Pleasure

RACK – Risk aware consensual kink

S

S&M – Sadism and masochism

SAM – Smartass masochist

SOT – Strap On Training

SOW – Strap On Worship

SSC – Safe, sane, consensual

T

T&D – Tease and denial

TPE – Total power exchange

TS – Trans Sexual

U

UDM – Ultimate Decision Maker

Y

YKINMK – Your Kink Is Not My Kink

If these BDSM acronyms have inspired you towards new kinds of play, great! But remember that BDSM isn’t about being extreme. It’s about curiosity, exploration, and pleasure in a space where you are safe and comfortable and where you can stop at any time.

Will we see you at the next play party? It’s BYOT, BTW.